Counter Shame

Links

• Everyone Makes Mistakes Comic: https://old.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/1do1hq8/everyone_make_mistakes/
• Be Good To Be Loved: https://old.reddit.com/r/2meirl4meirl/comments/1dorgon/2meirl4meirl/
• Stop being hard on yourself for the life-timeline you created as a child: https://old.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/1dpj6ub/let_the_kid_lives_forever/

Quotes

Long Term

1. Eleanor Roosevelt: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
2. Steve Jobs: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”
3. Ralph Waldo Emerson: “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
4. Dr. Seuss: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
5. Brene Brown: “You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”
6. Oprah Winfrey: “Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.”
7. Lao Tzu: “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
8. Mahatma Gandhi: “You may never know what results come of your actions, but if you do nothing, there will be no results.”
9. Wayne Dyer: “Self-worth comes from one thing – thinking that you are worthy.”
10. Unknown: “Don’t let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality.”

Short Term

1. Marcus Aurelius: “You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
2. Maya Angelou: “You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”
3. Eleanor Roosevelt: “Do what you feel in your heart to be right—for you’ll be criticized anyway.”
4. Dita Von Teese: “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”
5. Les Brown: “Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.”
6. Anaïs Nin: “I will not adjust myself to the world. I am adjusted to myself.”
7. Winston Churchill: “You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”
8. Unknown: “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your inner voice.”
9. Roy T. Bennett: “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”
10. Rumi: “Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.”

Risks

• Countering a lifetime of shame has some unintended consequences, such as a surge of confidence that can lead to self-destructive behavior. https://old.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1drsyn6/my_wife_left_me_after_she_got_in_shape_and_now/
  • Aside: https://old.reddit.com/r/facepalm/comments/1dsnt5n/dating_after_30/